Sunday, March 27, 2011
The Love Dare- Day 2
Well, day 2 went MUCH better than day 1!! Today's dare was to (again) not say anything negative to my husband, as well as do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness. I did a few, I'd say, but none of them were very amazing. I didn't gripe about him not wanting to go to church.. And even though I wanted him to stay home with me, I didn't whine about him going to play basketball with his friend. What else can I do? I ALWAYS leave for church in a bad mood because he won't come with me, so instead I was kind about it. I did a TON better with the no negative-ness too. I slipped up a few times, of course, but not nearly as bad as the day before. Hopefully the easy-ness will continue :)
Saturday, March 26, 2011
The Love Dare- Day 1
I honestly meant to start doing the Love Dare for Lent. I gave up sweet tea, so I was going to do the Love Dare to better myself and my marriage.. But I forgot. I do have a million and two things going on right now, but when I was at the Family Christian Store yesterday, I saw it and remembered. I decided to start last night.
Day 1 was about patience. The dare was not to say anything negative to my husband.
For a full day.
An ENTIRE, full day.
This only is day 1.
Are you kidding me!?
I have no (zero, nada, zip, zilch) problem telling my husband what he is doing wrong, when he is doing it wrong, and how exactly he is doing it wrong. I'll tell him when he's being a douchebag or not listening to me. I also have zero patience. Okay, let me rephrase that: I DO have patience - but it's like all my patience is spent on the babies (Kylee, don't touch that; Kylee, stop yelling; Kylee, don't hit the dog, etc) so I don't have any leftover for him. When I ask him to do something, even if it's totally unimportant, I want it done RIGHT THEN. No questions asked, just flippin' do it. And when he doesn't.. Well, I like to act like Kylee when she's not allowed to have another cookie. Oy.
I knew this day would be hard. Kylee's been sick (so cranky) and Bentley's teething and colicky, so our house has been nothing but a cryfest lately. I'm not a very positive person to say the least.
But, I DID decide to do this and I DO want to better myself and our marriage, sooooo I said a little prayer begging God for more patience and positivity and it wasn't long before I was biting my tongue. I just kept reminding myself it was almost bedtime. I couldn't be negative if I was asleep so I could just work on this whole positivity thing in the morning.
Then.... It happened..
"Why are you such an idiot?!"
Yup, I said it. And not in a sarcastic, nice, I'm-calling-you-an-idiot-but-I-don't-really-mean-it way, but in a "you are an idiot" way.
All day today was a struggle. I actually never realized how negative I WAS being until I tried NOT to be, if that makes sense. I told the hubby about how I was doing the Love Dare and what my dare was for today, so when I would start being negative he would remind me. Good? Not so much. *sigh* I think I'll keep the dares to myself from now on..
Day 1 was about patience. The dare was not to say anything negative to my husband.
For a full day.
An ENTIRE, full day.
This only is day 1.
Are you kidding me!?
I have no (zero, nada, zip, zilch) problem telling my husband what he is doing wrong, when he is doing it wrong, and how exactly he is doing it wrong. I'll tell him when he's being a douchebag or not listening to me. I also have zero patience. Okay, let me rephrase that: I DO have patience - but it's like all my patience is spent on the babies (Kylee, don't touch that; Kylee, stop yelling; Kylee, don't hit the dog, etc) so I don't have any leftover for him. When I ask him to do something, even if it's totally unimportant, I want it done RIGHT THEN. No questions asked, just flippin' do it. And when he doesn't.. Well, I like to act like Kylee when she's not allowed to have another cookie. Oy.
I knew this day would be hard. Kylee's been sick (so cranky) and Bentley's teething and colicky, so our house has been nothing but a cryfest lately. I'm not a very positive person to say the least.
But, I DID decide to do this and I DO want to better myself and our marriage, sooooo I said a little prayer begging God for more patience and positivity and it wasn't long before I was biting my tongue. I just kept reminding myself it was almost bedtime. I couldn't be negative if I was asleep so I could just work on this whole positivity thing in the morning.
Then.... It happened..
"Why are you such an idiot?!"
Yup, I said it. And not in a sarcastic, nice, I'm-calling-you-an-idiot-but-I-don't-really-mean-it way, but in a "you are an idiot" way.
All day today was a struggle. I actually never realized how negative I WAS being until I tried NOT to be, if that makes sense. I told the hubby about how I was doing the Love Dare and what my dare was for today, so when I would start being negative he would remind me. Good? Not so much. *sigh* I think I'll keep the dares to myself from now on..
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