Sunday, November 28, 2010

Day 3, 4, 5, & 6

I've been slacking.. I know, I suck! It's been crazy busy around here and I've had a few "off" days where if I DID post it would probably be the most depressing crap you've ever read. Anyway, back to the 12 days of Christmas blog challenge :)

Day 3: Most Meaningful Gift/Best Gift You've Received

I've been thinking about this one for a while.... And I honestly don't know. Obviously the babies, but like a material gift? Probably my grandma's engagement ring which is now my engagement ring. I would die if I lost it or something happened to it and knowing that my grandparents were married until my grandma died (and my grandpa never 'moved on' - even now more than 10 years later he says that my grandma was the only one for him) makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside :)

Day 4: Tips/Tricks to a Budget Friendly Holiday Season

Yeah.. when someone figures it out - let me know.

Day 5: Favorite Christmas Movie

Muppet's Christmas Carol! FOR SURE! I pretty much love all Christmas movies though :)

Day 6: Gift Ideas (FOR ME!)

Um... Good question. The only thing I really want is a quick/easy labor & delivery (yeah, no such thing.. I know) and a healthy baby afterwards. I want Kylee to take to Bentley wonderfully (and easily) and I want her to have a great Christmas. Gift cards are also always accepted.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Day 2

Day 2: Black Friday/General Shopping Tips

Here's my Black Friday tip: DON'T DO IT.

Other shopping tips... Start early. If you hate people (like me) online shop as much as possible. Yes, you'll have to pay shipping, but add up shipping costs and compare it to bail money that you'd need to get out of jail when you lose it on some unsuspecting moron out and about... Just saying.

Don't go overboard. This is a SUPER hard one for me because I LOVE buying presents for people :)

Sales, sales, sales! You can get so many good deals this time of year. Also, you can get FABULOUS deals during after Christmas sales. My mom does always gets a few gifts for the next year during after Christmas sales. Also a good time to get birthday presents for people!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

12 Days of Christmas Blog Challenge

Totally stealing this from Erica because I suck at finding good ones :)

Day 1: Christmas/Holiday Traditions

We're just starting our own Christmas traditions, but we still have quite a few! :) I LOVE Christmas and I LOVE Christmas traditions (even if people think they're silly) so I have no problem coming up with and sticking to them.

Our first tradition is that we put up the Christmas tree and Christmas decor the day after Thanksgiving. While all the crazy shoppers are out beating each other for toys and games, we're at home decorating and watching whatever Christmas/holiday movies are on TNT, TBS, or USA.

We also have certain shows/movies that MUST be watched at least once every holiday season. The Muppet's Christmas Carol is an absolute MUST!! I adore that movie and have ever since I was little! I would die if I couldn't watch it one Christmas. The Peanut's Christmas, the Madagascar Christmas special (on ABC), and that weird Elf one that's on ABC are others. We also watch the Veggie Tales Christmas, but that's more for Kylee than anyone else. haha.

We also do an Advent calendar, but I'm not sure if that's a tradition or not. This year I'm thinking about putting Hershey kisses or something in it for Kylee, but she might still be too little for that.

We have Christmas jammies that are opened on Christmas Eve after church.

This year we're making it a tradition to take the babies to Build-A-Bear & see Santa :) I'm so excited!! Kylee and I are also going to bake a LOT of goodies, but I'm not sure if that can count as tradition.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Day 30

I suck! I had a rough day yesterday, so I totally forgot to do the last day of the blog challenge. I also haven't found any "good" challenges *sigh* But I'll work on it!!


Day 30: A Picture


My little family :) Not including little Bentley, of course! I love them - and I love this picture. My two nerds!! Maybe Bentley will be normal...
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November 18th - Today I'm thankful for Jesus. My life is so good because of him. He has blessed me with so many wonderful people in my life.
November 19th - Today I'm thankful for cereal. I think I'd starve without it, no joke.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Day 29

Day 29: 3 Wishes

..Almost done! I can't believe it's already been almost a month since I started this. Today I'll have to search for another blog challenge since I doubt anything entertaining (besides Kylee's normal stunts that I'm sure no one wants to read about) will start happening in my life by Thursday.

Anyway, 3 wishes.

*I wish that we could be completely debt free & financially set for the rest of our lives. Like starting today...Aaaaand go.
*I wish Stephanie would move back & Elaina's hubby would be stationed here.
*I wish Bentley would come on December 1st. Not November 30th - not December 2nd - December 1st, please & thank you, little one!

There are a few others - like being healthy for the rest of my life and having a lifetime supply of animal fries constantly flowing, but hey, I'll take what I can get ;)

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Today I'm thankful for SLEEP! Pregnancy insomnia has been kicking my arse lately, and last night I slept so amazingly, it was wonderful. I might've woken up with a horrible cold that my darling daughter decide to pass on and Bentley's sitting super low because he thinks he's closer to the finish line than he really is, but at least I slept well last night! :)

Monday, November 15, 2010

Day 28

Day 28: Something That Stresses You Out

Um, this post alone could be about 10 zillion pages long. I stress over just about everything under the sun. It's an issue, I know.

I'm always stressing about money. Always. That's probably my biggest one.

School really stresses me out. I worry about failing, never finishing, not being smart enough, etc.

I stress out about car issues. Even the simplest thing can send me to tears in .5 seconds.

When Kylee's sick, I stress like you wouldn't believe. It's hard for me to sleep, because I'm worried she'll need me and I won't hear her.. I stress about the possibility of having to take her to the ER (which has never happened) and them admitting her or something. I stress about something being seriously wrong with her and me just not knowing. Just this one stresser I could go on about all day. I worry about her being kidnapped, being scared, not knowing that I love her.. Seriously, I have a lot of problems. haha.

I stress about deployments and underways. I try not to, but it's a constant thought in the back of my mind that something could change in a day and the hubs would have to leave for a long period of time with pretty much no warning. Luckily this hasn't happened yet, but I still hold my breath for it.

The house not being clean and laundry not being done stresses me out. Since I don't work, I feel like those things are my job, and if they aren't done, I'm letting the hubby down. I know that's ridiculous and he doesn't feel that way at all (or really even care) but that's just how I feel.

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Today I'm thankful for ultrasounds.. Kylee & I get to see Bentley today because my lovely doctor does an ultrasound every appointment :) Kylee loves hearing B's heartbeat (and dancing to it.. she's weird!) and I love seeing him being all squirmy and crazy on the moniter.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Day 27

Day 27: Pets

We only really have Ray. We had Mia, but she ran off a few months ago. My mom also "adopted" my Binks.. My black kitty. I rescued him and even though I'm allergic, I always wanted a black kitty, so my mom let me keep him. Then when I moved out she kept him for me :)

We've had Ray since May of 2008. He's honestly probably one of the worst dogs in the history of dogs. I really can't stand him most of the time. haha. But Kylee adores him so I just don't have the heart to give him up. He's ruined our carpet at every single house that we've lived in so far (he's working on this one).. He ruined our couches. There's nothing wrong with him, but he just won't potty train. Grrrr. He runs off. He whiiiines more than Kylee does and his newest annoying trait is getting on the table when anyone leaves the room. Yeahhh. If we do happen to get rid of him, we won't get another dog until we're out of the Navy and done moving and have a house with a yard. And then we'll get a BIG dog. Until then though, no more pets. Maybe a fish, but I even doubt that because they smell.

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Today I'm thankful that Kylee seems to be feeling better :)

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Day 26

Day 26: Picture of my family
Today I'm thankful for pumpkin spice lattes.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Day 25

Day 25: IPod Shuffle

Umm, okay, I don't own one of those, and I have no desire to. Sooo let's just say I love pretty much any Christian music.. Jeremy Camp, Third Day, Barlow Girl, Natalie Grant, Sonicflood, Tenth Avenue North, and just about 10 zillion others.

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Today I'm thankful for my extended family on my Momma's side.. Aunt Shar & her family, my Papaw, Uncle, all of them. I love them so much!!

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Day 24

Day 24: Something I've Learned

I've learned that pregnancy and childbirth is seriously one of the most stressful, painful, and yet wonderful experiences ever. I've learned to focus on the here and now rather than stressing about the future (although I still have issues with this!). I've learned that I can count on my husband for anything. I've learned that all I need to be happy is my hubby and the babies. I've learned that being a mommy is the MOST rewarding, amazing, beautiful thing and I can't believe I used to never want kids!!


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Today I'm thankful for all veterans! Thank you for your sacrifices for our freedom; especially those who gave the biggest sacrifice of all.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Day 23

Day 23: Favorite Vacation

Mmm, another hard one. I have a few favorite ones, but I have to say that my first cruise when I was 16 with Ashy & her family is probably still my favorite!! I loooove cruises, actually I could probably live on a cruise ship. We got to see so many cool places and meet so many awesome people; it was an amazing experience.

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Today I'm thankful for my Momma! She's crazy (aren't they all?), but I know she'd do pretty much anything for us.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Day 22

Day 22: Favorite City

Ohhh, this is a hard one for me, but NYC is probably my favorite city. I could NEVER in 10 million years actually live there, but I loooove visiting and I'm pretty sure I could spend all of my time in Times Square & Battery Park. I just love all the lights and theatres and huge, amazing churches.. LOVE them!

Toronto is definitely a close second though. So many cute little shops & stuff, plus it was just ridiculously clean for such a large city. I could actually live there!

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Today I'm thankful for my little brother. He still annoys me (the way a little brother should) but my life wouldn't be complete without him.

Monday, November 8, 2010

Day 21

Day 21: Picture of Myself

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And today I'm thankful for my sissy :) I miss her (and our midnight Walmart trip/Alias nights) so much!! But I'm lucky to have such a great sister, who I know would be there for me no matter what!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Day 20

Day 20: Nicknames

I have about 40 billion nicknames! haha.

DJ is a nickname, obviously. My mom calls me baby Jane, Janie, Janice Marie. The hubs calls me babay, baby, beautiful, princess, stupid, or whatever else happens to fly out of his mouth at the time. hahaha. Kristy & Darrick & my cousins call me Sneege; long story, don't ask. My Aunt Shar calls me Deanna Marie. My papaw calls me babydoll. A lot of people call me "Deej" or, my least favorite, "Deejers." In softball my nickname was Lips. My sister in law calls me dollface. Kylee calls me Momma, & veeeery rarely she calls me Mommy. She also sometimes refers to me as butt butt if she's being a brat.

Seriously, sometimes I wonder how I remember what my own name is.

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Today I'm thankful for my wonderful hubby, who is about to make me some eggies :)

Saturday, November 6, 2010

Day 19

Day 19: Something I Miss

I've been fortunate enough to have wonderful friends that are there for me no matter what, even from 2800 miles away, or closer if your name is Stephanie :) But I REALLY miss having friends that I can just go out and do things with.. Go shopping or even grocery shopping, to church, get food, or just hang out. I'm lucky I have my built-in buddy, Kylee, who loves doing all of the above with me, but it would be nice to have an adult conversation once in a while when the hubby's gone, and not just alien ones ;)

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Aaaand today I'm thankful for Harry Potter. Seriously. I pray to God we can find a sitter so we can go see it.

Friday, November 5, 2010

Day 17 & 18

I suck! With the hubs coming home yesterday I totally forgot to update.. So I'll do two in one for today! :)

Day 17: Something I Look Forward To

Currently, I'm looking forward to Christmas shopping! :) Other than that.. December! I can't wait to be un-pregnant ;) I'm looking forward to being done with school (in about 10 zillion years). I'm looking forward to the day where there will be no more underways, duty days, or deployments because we no longer need the Navy. I'm looking forward to watching my babies grow up and being able to see their personalities develop. :)

Day 18: Regrets

I only have one regret, but it's not something I'm posting here!

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November 4th- Today I'm thankful my hubby's home!! :)

November 5th- Today I'm thankful for naptime. Kylee is driving me nutso. haha.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Day 16

Day 16: My Dream House

I really want to build a house and I pretty much have it all planned out in my head. I want a big, white house with dark red shutters in the country. White picket fence, huge fenced in back yard with a swing set and play area for the babies, the whole 9 yards. :) I want a big porch that wraps around the entire house with a swing facing out to the backyard and a grill & table on the porch off the side that goes into the kitchen.

When you first walk in, there are stairs leading up and a doorway to your right, left, and then on the other side of the stairs. On the left is the living room, the right is the dining room, and the door on the other side of the stairs leads to the downstairs bathroom. The living room is bright and comfy with a fireplace. The dining room has dark wood floors and a huge wooden dining room table & chairs. Go through the dining room to the kitchen, which is h u g e. And pretty!! I think I want yellow, white, and light blue as the colors. Just really bright and cheery. There are also stairs to the basement, which is fully finished and a playroom/family room. Upstairs are 4 bedrooms and two bathrooms, one for the kiddos and one in the master bedroom.

Someday.. haha!

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Annnnd day three of being thankful: Today I'm thankful for my wonderful hubby! Tomorrow is our four year "dating" anniversary and I'm SO thankful we've stuck together this long and we've built such a wonderful life together. I love him so much!!

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Day 15/Day 2

Day 15: Bible Verse

"Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don't get too worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes." -Matthew 6:34 (The Message)

"So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not a sentimental gush. Live a lover's life, circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of: bountiful in fruits from the soul, making Jesus Christ attractive to all, getting everyone involved in the glory and praise of God." Philippians 1:9 (The Message)

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Today I am thankful for a healthy pregnancy. I may absolutely LOATHE being pregnant, but I love the little baby in my belly and I'm so happy to not have had any complications or problems as of yet.

Monday, November 1, 2010

Day 14 & November

Day 14: A Picture You Love


I could seriously put a million pictures here! I take so many of our princess, and I love all of them <3>


And my first time holding my baby <3>




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Since it's November, I guess I'll do that whole one thing a day I'm thankful for.

Today I am thankful for my beautiful baby girl. She can put a smile on my face on the worst day and I'd do anything for her. I could never begin to describe or explain how much I love and adore her.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Day 13

Day 13: Goals

Raise happy, healthy, God-loving babies.

Have a happy, healthy, strong marriage, forever.

Finish school.

Be debt-free.

Build a house.

Go to Europe :)

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Day 12

Day 12: What You Believe

I believe that Jesus is my Savior & was born of the Virgin Mary to come and die for our sins. I believe in one God, our Father, who is all knowing, accepting, and loving. I believe that a family that prays together, stays together. I believe that the Bible is more than a book. I believe that everything happens for a reason and that you reap what you sow.

I believe a man and a woman are perfectly capable to fall in love, marry, and be in love, married, and faithful to each other for the rest of their lives. A little self-control goes a long way.

I believe love is all you need.

I believe babies are God's biggest blessings.

I believe that blood doesn't make you family.

Friday, October 29, 2010

Day 11

Day 11: Favorite TV Shows

Our TV is ALWAYS on if we're awake. Half the time we aren't even watching anything and it's just on Disney channel for the background noise. I feel awkward if it isn't on.

My current faves are:

Kardashians
Kendra
Sister Wives
Say Yes To The Dress
House Hunters
Property Virgins
My First Place
16 & Pregnant
Law & Order: SVU
Wizards of Waverly Place

I also watch Army Wives when it's in season.. Same with Teen Mom. Pretty much I like watching other people's drama because my life is (thankfully) boring on that reality TV show level :)

When the hubs is home, we watch Ghost Adventures & Paranormal State - but I can't watch those if I'm by myself. I get too creeped out.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Day 10

Day 10: Something You Are Afraid Of

I'm afraid of a LOT of things! haha. Seriously, I'm the biggest wuss ever! But I can give you my top 5.

1. Something happening to my hubs. I don't know what I would do, honestly. Losing him is absolutely one of my worst fears.

2. Losing one of my babies. Whether they're in my belly or walking around being bossy, it breaks my heart to even think about something happening to them. Losing a child (through miscarriage or otherwise) is something no mother should ever have to think about. I can't even imagine how unbelievably painful it is. I pray to God that I never have to find out.

3. Failing. I hate disappointing people that I care about. I hold myself to high standards and I'm hard on myself when I can't keep up with them.

4. Drowning. I have this HUGE fear of not being able to breathe, and drowning would be the worst death for me! I hate water anyway, so that's like a double yuck.

5. Birds, or anything that flies. I just really, really am terrified of things that fly for some reason.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Day 9

First of all, I can't believe I've already been doing this for 9 days! That's crazy. I really thought after a few days I'd get tired of it and just.. quit. Lucky (or unlucky) for you, I haven't! ;)


Day 9: A Picture of your Friends
I don't have many friends, honestly. I find that as you grow up, you leave a lot of people behind. And that's okay. Lives change, people change, things change.


My hubs is my best friend!




My sister is also one of my very best friends.

Then come my military girlies!! I LOVE them. They are always there to let me vent and whine about absolutely anything; navy or otherwise! I'd go craaaaazy without them and their advice. I wish we all lived in the same place! But, that's the military life.



Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Day 8

Day 8: Place You've Travelled

I've been a few places, thanks to choir competitions and trips, but one place will always be my favorite just because of what it means to me and our life.

When the hubs was in boot camp, I would've given anything to get to him.. And two months after he graduated, I was finally able to go! Great Lakes, IL will always be one of my favorite places. We had so many good times there, got married there, and the only times I didn't cry leaving there was when he was with me. We plan on going back someday and staying in the CRAPPY motel we stayed in all the time and eating at the gross restaurant we ate at after getting married.

The first time going there was my first trip by myself. I drove the 8+ hours all alone just to see my love. And I'd do it again! (I did actually, several, several times. haha.) Driving through Chicago was always like the light at the end of the tunnel for me. I was almost there, almost back to my baby. I remember the nerves and the butterflies like it was yesterday. It was (and remains to be) definitely one of my favorite places on Earth!

Monday, October 25, 2010

Day 7

Day 7: Favorite Movie

My all time favorite movie is definitely Pretty Woman. It's been my favorite since before I was even old enough to know what was really happening! ;)

Other than that, I have a variety of other favorites. I love Ever After, She's the Man, Benchwarmers, Gladiator, 10 Things I Hate About You, Halloweentown, Hocus Pocus, The Muppet's Christmas Carol, National Treasure, and of course the Harry Potter movies. :) And I have to be a sap and say that I love Titanic and The Notebook. I'm sure there are some that I'm missing. The hubs and I watch a ton of movies!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Day 6 & 32 Weeks

Day 6: Something that makes you happy

Lots of things make me happy..

Snuggles, kisses, Kylee, the hubs, the baby in my belly, good friends, Harry Potter, buying presents, Olive Garden, football season, K-Love, and unexpected cutesy texts from my hubs :)



... On a different note, today I'm 32 weeks pregnant! Crazyyyy. I really can't even believe it. This pregnancy has gone by SO ridiculously fast. I'm not sure if I'm prepared for the end result yet! haha. On one hand, I can't wait to have our little boy here.. But on the other, I don't know how Kylee's going to handle it, or how I'M going to handle having two babies under the age of two! Oy. Someone pray for this Momma's sanity! It should be fun though. :) Maybe if we tell Kylee he's a puppy or something she'll be good.. Haha! Kidding, but seriously. The kid loves dogs so it might work. ;)

Sometimes she gets a litttttle confused and if you ask her where Bentley is, she'll point to her own belly. Too cute! Usually she gets it right though. She gives Bentley kisses and snuggles too, but only sometimes.. Sometimes the little diva can't be bothered and if you even ask.. DRAMA! haha. I just hope she deals well with no longer being the center of attention 24/7. I hope that I'll be able to deal with no longer giving her my attention 24/7! She's been the center of our lives for 14.5 months, and in two months, she won't be anymore. I guess it had to happen sooner or later, because we figured we'd have more babies, but gosh! I'm nervous. I know it'll work out though - and I know she'll be a fabulous big sister!!

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Day 5



Day 5: Your Siblings




Ohhh, my siblings. The stories I could tell ;)




I am the oldest of 3. I have a little sister, Kristy, and a little brother, Darrick.




I was super not pumped about my sister. Having been the only child, I was content to STAY the only child and she sort of messed that up. Plus she played with my toys. Not cool. But, I did get to pick her name.. She's lucky I'm nice!


My brother on the other hand.. I adored him. Maybe it was because I was older (5) and I had gotten used to not being the only child anymore, but I really loved him. He could do no wrong in my eyes!




Then we grew up ;) We fought like cats and dogs! Kristy and I rarely got along, ever. Darrick and I got along a little better, but he was still my annoying little brother. However, we were still close. We were always there for each other and always played little imaginary games. We were silly and we'd sometimes rather hang out with each other than with our friends. We would make tents in the living room or our bedrooms (they were SWEET too) and have "movie days." I miss those days sometimes! haha. If we weren't fighting, we were probably laughing, more than likely at each other, but still :)



Now we all live separate. Kristy's at college, I'm in San Diego, and Darrick's still at home. We don't talk as often as we used to, since everyone apparently got lives, but I know I can count on them for anything! My sister is one of my very best friends. My brother is still slightly dramatic, but who else would we make fun of?




Friday, October 22, 2010

Day 4

Day 4: Your Parents

Well.. Let's see. My relationship with my parents has been... Weird. There's honestly not much more I can say about it. haha. I have my mom's temper, which means we clash a lot, but at the end of the day, I know she'd do just about anything for me. I go to her for advice a lot and she isn't afraid to tell me the truth.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Day 3

Day 3: Your first love <3

I'm one of those lucky ones that got it right the first time. Yeah, I had boyfriends (and I use that term loosely), but normally, I didn't even like them, let alone LOVE them. They were fun for a few days, then they got annoying and after two weeks I was over it. I never had a serious relationship until the hubs.



Anyway, it was the end of October '06 and he started coming around Dairy Queen a lot (where I worked) and hanging out with me while I was working. Then he found me on myspace, added me, and we messaged back and forth a few times.. One morning I was leaving for school and there was a note stuck in my door saying "If you ever need some love (insert phone number here) - Tim." YES! I'm being serious. If you know me at all, you know I'm the least cheesy person EVER. I ever cried at sappy movies (actually, my lovely sister always said I had no heart.) and I'm (still) not romantic in the least. I find that sort of thing embarrassing, actually. BUT his little note, gave me the worst butterflies I'd ever had in my life. Of course, I'd NEVER call (also the kind of girl I was ;) but I put his number in my phone and tried to go on with my day without walking around like a cheeseball.



I never mentioned the note to him and we just went about our business. Then, on November 4th, he sent me a myspace message that said, "let's quit playing these games and hook up. check yes or no." Obviously I said that I checked yes.



Okay, maybe it was just me, or maybe I'm not the only one, but "hook up" either meant one of two things: hoooook up ;) ;) or hang out. I was in a show at school and that night in the dressing room I asked the girls what they thought he meant.. They said the same thing; he probably just wanted to hang out. OKAY! Gotcha.



I'm leaving the show and a mutual friend of ours calls me.. "OH MY GOSH YOU AND TIM ARE DATING?!?!"



I'm sure my face was priceless. I quickly stammered something about yeah, I know, so crazy and then went to my friend Katelyn's house to discuss this new development that seemed to have happened without me even knowing.



And the rest is history. :) Not only is he my first love, but he's my husband, my best friend, my soulmate, and the father to my babies. He's my safe place, comforter, and he (unfortunately) knows me better than I know myself sometimes. He annoys the CRAP out of me more often than not, but we're completely in love and I wouldn't change our relationship for anything. He tells me when I'm being a crazy grouch and I tell him when he's being a pain in my ass (which he usually is). I miss him a ridiculous amount when he's gone. I honestly couldn't have chosen a better match for me if I would've given God strict instructions for what I wanted in my husband. He's perfect for me!





Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Day Two!

Today's 30 Day Blog Challenge is to explain your blog name. Well, Mrs. A is pretty obvious, so there's not really much explaining to do! I'm a Mrs. and my last name starts with an A.. Ta da!

Besides that, I've had a super boring day! Nothing really on TV, Kylee was easy (not whiney, listening, being a good kid *sigh*), and just not a lot going on. I'm a member of a military wives forum, so I spent a lot of time on there just reading and lurking around. It really makes me sad when women think that it's okay that their husbands tell them that they aren't attracted to them anymore because they've gained a little weight. In my oh so not important opinion, it's one thing for you to have the mindset that "no man wants me" but for your husband to validate that is just... sad.

I'm all for working out and eating healthy (as long as it's not me! haha) and trying to look your best, but even if you lose the weight that you think you should lose, those issues will ALWAYS be in the back of your head. Being worried or scared to gain weight because you don't want your husband to not want you anymore will ALWAYS be in the back of your head.

Marriage is a lot of things. It's hard work and it's a lot of compromise. It takes dedication and, obviously, a lot of love. But it's also about acceptance and being comfortable. You shouldn't have to worry that if you gain ten pounds your spouse won't want you anymore. You shouldn't have to want to hide your body because you aren't comfortable with the ONE PERSON that you SHOULD be comfortable with. Marriage is a long term committment, and over time, people's looks change. As we get older, our bodies aren't as easy to upkeep and you aren't going to look like a size zero 19 year old forever. You should be attracted to the person on the inside; that's what should make them beautiful to you.

I've never had to wonder if my husband thought I was beautiful or was still attracted to me. Not once. Even when we're fighting and I want to punch him in the face, I still don't have to worry about how he feels about me or how I look. I've been (in my opinion) fat, skinny, pregnant, super pregnant, post preg-gross, and now pregnant again. He's seen me at my worst and still thinks I'm perfect. It's an amazing feeling knowing that no matter what, he'll think that I'm beautiful. No matter what, I have that acceptance and love from him. It's really sad to me that not everyone has that.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

30 Day Blog Challenge

Day 1: introduce, recent picture, & 15 interesting facts.





I'm DJ, I'm 21 years old, and I'm a Navy wife and Momma of one (soon to be two!). My wonderful husband, Tim, and I have two babies: Kylee Marie, who is 14 months old; and Bentley William who is due December 19th. We live in San Diego, CA but both are originally from West Virginia. I L O V E San Diego! I could live here forever.



I guess this isn't really THAT recent, but it's really one of the only pictures I have of myself lately. Being a Momma = Taking picture of the baby! Plus I look the same. haha.


15 Interesting Facts:



1. My babies (hubby included!) are my entire world. I honestly don't know what I would do without any of them - even Mr. B who has yet to make his grand entrance into our world. I love the life that we've built.



2. I'm a proud Navy wife - but I don't go overboard. I don't think I deserve any sort of special privileges, I don't run or bake for charities, and I don't participate in the FRG or any other random group. I'd rather cut my arm off than attend any ship function or Christmas party. However, the wives that I have met (baby maker kickers<3) are GREAT friends. There's NOTHING like the bond between two military wives going through a deployment. There just isn't. And I love Elaina. That is all.



3. I love going to church. I've gone ever since I was born and I'm so glad I had parents that raised me in a Christian home.



4. I really want to build a house.. I pretty much have the layout all worked out in my head.



5. I love planning things, especially youth churchy things!



6. If I could do anything in this world, I'd be on Broadway.



7. Being a Mommy is the best thing in this world!! I can't imagine doing anything else with my life. But, I'm not sure if I want anymore after Bentley. (Key words: not sure)



8. I have a LOT of fears. Drowning, fires, being alone, my babies being kidnapped, birds, bugs, rodents, mold, pretty much anything gross.. I DESPISE anything that flies, seriously. Butterflies, moths, flying bugs; ew, ew, ew. It's just not natural.



9. I wish Hogwarts was real. Just saying.



10. Sometimes I feel like my life is a waiting game and I forget to "live."



11. October is my favorite month. I LOVE Halloween so much. The decorations, the Disney movies, pumpkins, everything! When Walmart starts selling "pumpkin spice" candles - my whole year is instantly better.



12. I can't stand stupid, negative, and immature people. I've done a good deal of "cutting out" those people in my life. I honestly just don't have the time to deal with the drama. I'm sorry your life sucks - but I have kids to take care of and bills to pay. Come back and chat with me when your parents stop paying for everything.



13. I can tell if I'm going to get along with someone within .5 seconds of talking to them.



14. Now that we have kids, I LOVE Christmas! I spend months figuring out what Santa will bring and what will go in stockings. I've even been searching for our 2010 ornament since we'll have Bentley this year!



15. I haaaaaaaaaate being pregnant. Detest it. I always wanted to be one of those glowing, beautiful pregnant women, but I'm just not. I hurt, I feel huge, I throw up, and I hate the waiting. It's just no fun for me. If I could just pop the kid out the day after I get the + sign, I'd be one happy camper!