Day Two!

Today's 30 Day Blog Challenge is to explain your blog name. Well, Mrs. A is pretty obvious, so there's not really much explaining to do! I'm a Mrs. and my last name starts with an A.. Ta da!

Besides that, I've had a super boring day! Nothing really on TV, Kylee was easy (not whiney, listening, being a good kid *sigh*), and just not a lot going on. I'm a member of a military wives forum, so I spent a lot of time on there just reading and lurking around. It really makes me sad when women think that it's okay that their husbands tell them that they aren't attracted to them anymore because they've gained a little weight. In my oh so not important opinion, it's one thing for you to have the mindset that "no man wants me" but for your husband to validate that is just... sad.

I'm all for working out and eating healthy (as long as it's not me! haha) and trying to look your best, but even if you lose the weight that you think you should lose, those issues will ALWAYS be in the back of your head. Being worried or scared to gain weight because you don't want your husband to not want you anymore will ALWAYS be in the back of your head.

Marriage is a lot of things. It's hard work and it's a lot of compromise. It takes dedication and, obviously, a lot of love. But it's also about acceptance and being comfortable. You shouldn't have to worry that if you gain ten pounds your spouse won't want you anymore. You shouldn't have to want to hide your body because you aren't comfortable with the ONE PERSON that you SHOULD be comfortable with. Marriage is a long term committment, and over time, people's looks change. As we get older, our bodies aren't as easy to upkeep and you aren't going to look like a size zero 19 year old forever. You should be attracted to the person on the inside; that's what should make them beautiful to you.

I've never had to wonder if my husband thought I was beautiful or was still attracted to me. Not once. Even when we're fighting and I want to punch him in the face, I still don't have to worry about how he feels about me or how I look. I've been (in my opinion) fat, skinny, pregnant, super pregnant, post preg-gross, and now pregnant again. He's seen me at my worst and still thinks I'm perfect. It's an amazing feeling knowing that no matter what, he'll think that I'm beautiful. No matter what, I have that acceptance and love from him. It's really sad to me that not everyone has that.